What is a soulmate? Some answers may surprise you...You're
wondering: What is a soulmate? What is true love? Good questions!
Everybody wants one, but
there doesn't seem to be a consensus on what a soulmate
is. “Our
soulmate
is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of
direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up,
chances are we've found the right person.” - Richard Bach,
author of Jonathan
Livingston Seagull
For years, I've wondered 'what is a soulmate' myself and have wanted to go deeper into the topic. For years, I've explored. Both inside myself, and in the ideas available to me. So yes, I've searched high and low. I've read and sought out information and all kinds of love advice. I've distilled. I've discerned. And I am excited to share what I've found with you! As I share what I've found, I also share my comments and opinions, not to influence you in any way, but as food for thought, and enthusiastic encouragement to continue your search in a way that empowers you. Why? Because I sincerely want you to find your soulmate. Before you think that I'm out of my mind, let me tell you, I have a selfish reason for this. Why do I want to help you answer: what is a soulmate? What I've learned is that the purpose of a spiritual relationship isn't meant to merely fill a gap of loneliness, or ramp up your sex life (though great sex can be a wonderful side benefit!). Having a soulmate is much more than that. It can actually turbo-charge the greatest potential within each of us. Don't believe me? Here's some law of attraction research on positive singles and soulmates. Some soulmate relationships, like twin souls, are even meant to have a greater purpose: one that is 'bigger' (if you will) then may have been able to meet individually. Why are you here?I mean the big question, not here reading this site.Why does this matter to me? I choose to believe that the more of us that find our true soulmates, the more of us that honoura our personal growh, cultivate our greatest gifts and embrace our purpose (whether we're intended to impact the world, our families, or the people down the block), the more we'll all benefit. Yup, my reasoning is a bit broader than the question: what is a soulmate? Before we move on, I want you to know something. By creating this site, I don't think there's anything wrong with being alone. Much of my greatest growth has come from periods of being without a partner. Also, not everyone will choose to partner, for various reasons. For example a tireless humanitarian, who's also a workaholic and travels alot may choose not to have a relationship. Consciously, his or her focus lies elsewhere. If you're interested in having a soulmate union, the best love advice is learn how to understand and love yourself first. Whatever your goals, whatever your beliefs, this is always the first step. I know you've heard this before (yawn). But it's true. I hope that this site can also put a few unique spins on your search... ideas you won't see anywhere else. Enough to instill hope, clarity and inspire you during your own journey to discover 'what is a soulmate' - for you - and bring that man or woman into your life for the long-term. Love is loveBefore we move on! I believe that true love transcends sexual orientation. So whether you're gay, straight or looking for a lesbian soulmate, love is love in my view. Period.Trudging forward, I'm making the assumption that you're here because you want a soulmate match, and you're interested in learning more about what true love means. And of course, the answer to that elusive question: what is a soulmate? First things first: let's start with how the dictionaries (gotta start somewhere). Then, we'll get into:
What is a soulmate?"I'm
afraid
we don't want the same things." - Sex and the City
Webster's soulmate definition says it's an informal term referring to a 'person, especially of the opposite sex, with whom one has a deeply personal relationship. The American Heritage Dictionary says that a soulmate is 'one of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity.' Here's Merriam-Webster's definition from way back in 1822: 1 : a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament 2 : a person who strongly resembles another in attitudes or beliefs The Canadian Oxford definition says that a soulmate is a person with whom one shares an interest, passion, understanding or bond, esp. a friend, lover, or spouse. Beyond the dictionariesIn all cases, the dictionaries answer 'what is a soulmate' by describing a person with whom we have a feeling of deep and natural affinity and compatibility. Two out of three definitions mention similar attitudes and beliefs. In other words, a spiritual relationship. No wonder having one is so desirable! But for me, this is nothing new in the soul mate debate. In my view, there is much more to a soulmate connection (that's why I'm writing a multi-layered site about it!).Do you believe that every soulmate is a romantic relationship? I don't. I believe that we can have true love connections in friends, family members, teachers, and even pets. I also don't believe that every marriage is between soulmates… though each has that potential if both parties are willing to dig deep (it can happen). How to recognize your soulmate The good news? This means that when we think about it, we already have soulmates in our lives! Which is very cool. The bad news? The most intense, thrilling, excruciatingly painful emotional connections we've experienced romantically... may not be soulmates at all. At least not yet. Though they are a type of spiritual relationship. Some call thess karmic relationships. I remember my heart sank when I first realized this viscerally. I was seeking love advice with karmic astrologer Linda Brady at the time, and I had discovered a particularly strong connection with someone. One of those 'right people, wrong time' kind of situations. But one that was intense, and the heartbreak experience which made me first consider karma What is karma? and later write a book about past life love. Linda helped me understand my own answer to: 'what is a soulmate'. Back then, I couldn't imagine not being with this person. Yet it was not to be. When Linda said: "You've set it up, so that you'll be soulmates in the next life," I felt sick. I rationalized up a storm: 'But, but... if felt so deep, so real. You mean I went through this devastation for nothing?' Let me tell you. It's not for nothing! That's why I'm writing this site. I do believe they exist. I believe it with every cell in my body. I also believe that the mythology (and more recently the mainstream) has been real culprits in twisting the answer to 'what is a soulmate'. Take me from Soulmate defined to: Soulmate theory - a.k.a. the origin of the Jerry McGuire speech 'You Complete Me'... which I think can prevent us from finding our soulmate! Soulmate lyrics - My personal, non-mainstream favourites... with links to music where possible. Characteristics of true love - What is the experience of true love? How does it feel at a gut-level? Ten signs it's the real-deal. Soulmate Site Home
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