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Exploring true love tips can help you create a soulmate relationship, whether you're dating — or solo and seeking.
True love doesn't find us. We create it. Within ourselves, with those we love and with everyone and everything we touch. We create it whether we're single — or we're with someone with whom we want to grow old.
Here's more on how to find true love — things you can do today. With this in mind, I hope you enjoy my particular flavour of true love tips. Choose to adopt a few and you'll be well on your way to creating the true love of a soulmate.
“The most loving person is the person who is Self centered.”– Neale Donald Walsch, Conversations with God, Book 1
The word selfish has a bad rap. When I say it, I'm not referring to narcissism, cruelty, betrayal or abandonment. I am referring to understanding and honouring your own needs, so that you're bursting with energy to share with others you love.
So that your luvly others are encouraged to do the same for themselves. So that you feel bigger, more empowered. So does he. So that together, you feel uber big! Energetically speaking. ☺ That's great true love advice.
“What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside you.”– Wayne Dyer
Okay, none of us are perfect. Sometimes we can get frustrated, disappointed — even devastated if big-time change is going on.
The question is — when faced with something we view ‘isn't fair’ or ‘isn't right’ — what do we do then? Do we skip the true love tips and go for the jugular? Or do we stay ‘above the line’ and choose not to hit below the belt.
My love advice? Short-term, revenge tactics may offer up a visceral rush. Long-term, revenge tactics erode our selves — and love lives.
“A woman's [person's!] flattery may inflate a man's head a little; but her criticism goes straight to his heart, and contracts it so that it can never again hold quite as much love for her.”– Helen Rowland
There is nothing loving or safe about blame or criticism. Marital researcher John Gottman calls criticism one of the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. In other words, things that spell doom in a relationship.
The other three are contempt, defensiveness and withdrawal. There's no way to dance around this one. Make an agreement to end criticism, even if it takes a while to do so completely. If you're really interested in acting on true love tips, that is.
“Laughter is the shortest distance between two people.”– Victor Borge
Did you know that the physiological study of laughter is Gelotology? That it's healing, and reduces stress? I bet you already knew how sexy it is (I have a soft spot for men with a quirk factor).
Here's more about Humour therapy benefits.
So, as you work your way through these true love tips, find humour in yourself, your pets, your kids, killer comics and life itself. If you laugh together... it'll be easier to work things out, and resentments won't have a chance to fester. And! This love advice will keep true love flowin' and growin'.
“When someone receives us with open-hearted, non-judging, intensely interested listening, our spirits expand.”– Sue Patton Thoele
There's nothing sexier than someone who truly listens. The sexiest words of all? Said honestly: ‘I understand’. As you get closer, active listening can only deepen your true love connection — while ‘half listening’ can only erode it.
The Harville Hendrix Dialogue Process is the cornerstone of Imago therapy which contains many true love tips in its advice. If you meet your soulmate, it not about magic. You may have the recipe for true love... but it's still up to you make the cake.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs.”– Joan Didion
Irritated? Afraid? Annoyed? Ever wonder why? Before launching into blame, try approaching the situation with gentle curiosity. Here's what relationship advice experts Gay and Katie Hendricks say about blame and criticism.
Why do this? Because this dissolves the emotional charge around it (if you don't buy it, try it!). Healthy responsibility keeps a true love connection soft and juicy.
One caveat! Point the ‘finger’ only at yourself. Whoosh! That's the sound of a wide open space past true love tips... where true love blooms.
“If you call forth what is in you, it will save you. If you do not call forth what is in you, it will destroy you.”– Gospel of Saint Thomas
Now here's one of the better true love tips. Ever had a major mid-life crisis? Want one?
Then I suggest that for a few decades, ignore anything that's emotionally uncomfortable. Hone your rationalization skills. Make excuses. Pretend everything is fine when it's falling apart.Avoid. Deny. Wham! There goes another one.
Psychiatrist Scott Peck says that mentally healthy people are the ones that fit in as many life ‘crises’ as they can. The ones who avoid, tend to build up to a major loo-loo later on. Want true love? Tackle the tough stuff early and often.
“Feelings or emotions are the universal language and are to be honored. They are the authentic expression of who you are at your deepest place.”– Judith Wright
How do you feel when you're around someone who walks his or her talk? Who does what they say they're going to do? Who's honest and lives his values. Safe? Secure?
How do you feel about broken promises? Saying one thing and doing another? For me, my heart tightens, I feel queasy, uneasy and I want to withdraw. Ick! Not good love advice.
If you want to put these true love tips into action. Being congruent is when who you are, what you say and what you do is in harmony. Do this — and your relationships will deepen.
“The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives.”– Anthony Robbins
I'm not talking romantic ideas here. I'm talking about eliminating the words that feel icky inside. ‘But’ is one — a word that feels like a slap on the face — nothing true luvy about it.
Replace ‘but’ with ‘and’. Why do this? Because folks only hear what's said after the word ‘but’. Everything else — poof — into the frozen void. Sounds strange at first, but it's easier on the heart.
Some other true love tips: Replace ‘should’ with ‘choose to’ (because it's more empowering). And heck — do I have to say it? Blast ‘always’ and ‘never’... into never-never-land.
“We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”–Frederick Keonig
I've left the best until last. If you only do one of the true love tips on this list, do this one. Find as much as you can to appreciate about your true love. Truthfully, from the heart, no matter how small.
Then tell folks what you appreciate about them. Often. Appreciation and gratitude is the highest energy vibration there is. Think of it as light sword, cutting away all of the obstacles to true love.
Single love advice? Find as much as you can to appreciate about your life today. This is the vibration that will attract your soulmate.
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