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The concept of soulmates as a Soulmate Continuum: an empowering perspective

“Play fair. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Say you're sorry when you hurt someone.” 
— Robert Fulghum

'The concept of soulmates as a Soulmate Continuum' was originally a Moondancing newsletter issue. Would you like similar articles delivered to you? If so, subscribe below.

When it comes to the concept of soulmates, I passionately believe that every relationship we've ever (or will ever) have resides somewhere on what I call The Soulmate Continuum.

There are no exceptions to this rule, and I'm talking about all the soul connections we have – not just the romantic ones.

What is a Soulmate Continuum? I invite you to expand the concept of soulmates in your heart. Picture a sliding scale with Conflict or Obligation (karma) at one end – and Love, Acceptance Freedom at the other.

What this means that every relationship choice we make in connection with another, nudges the relationship either closer or further away from Love.

As we do our best to move every soul connection we have further up the Soulmate Continuum (even just a nudge), we expand our own capacity to attract more Love into our life – in every form.

Including of course – your soulmate partner who is ready, willing and choose to walk beside you in this lifetime in growth and in Love.

Can you see how the concept of soulmates as I’m describing it could be helpful to you? Do you see value in expanding your own personal soulmate definition?

Think back – how do your past relationships measure up? Even if you aren't walking together in this lifetime – did you leave relationship higher on The Soulmate Continuum – or lower?

The first question on the Exam: “How much did you love?”

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.”
— Tom Robbins

I was at a seminar once, where the instructor was funny, smart and very wise. He said that when we're on the other side and we're asked about this life, the first question that we'll be asked is: How much did you love?

That is — how much love did you put into the world? Rather than how much love did you get out.

Love is expressed (or not expressed) in every choice we make. Every thought, emotion and action. Some believe that there are only two emotions: Love or Fear. The concept of soulmates resides on the side of love. However, being human, it may take a bit of work to get there.

I'm not talking about the grand romantic gestures of Valentines. I'm thinking of the thousands, even millions of micro choices we make over the course of the lifetime of a relationship. To connect or disconnect. To be kind or cruel. To open or defend.

Go there now. How many of your past relationships choices were from Love? If the relationship ended – how did you do – on balance?

Choosing to view the concept of soulmates as a Soulmate Continuum would mean that even leaving a relationship may be the most Loving Choice. Perhaps gifting the opportunity for someone to engage the transformational quality of their own pain.

Real Love doesn't require that we take on the role of doormat. For the first Love on which we are tested on, also encompasses the love we have for ourselves.

Why consider The Soulmate Continuum perspective?

“Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away. “
— Elbert Hubbard

Expand the concept of soulmates that you hold in your heart. Move forward, awakening to soul love. Do your best in every relationship to make Loving choices. Move your relationships up the Soulmate Continuum.

Live this perspective and you will also:

  • Expand the Love in your heart
  • Attract more Love into your Life
  • Magnetize people, situations and events to you – for the purpose of experiencing more Love.

See how this works? And - you completely control this (start today).

Taking the first step

“If you would take, you must first give, this is the beginning of intelligence.”
– Lao Tzu

2012 and beyond is the time in our evolution where we're called to claim and heal our unconscious stuff – we all have it, or we wouldn't be here. This requirement isn't going away. The concept of soulmates that you choose to adopt, is a small part of how you’re likely to experience this time.

If you're in a relationship, you can begin today by making small, conscious, Loving choices, as much as you're able. If you aren't in a relationship, you may choose to reflect on your past, exploring the bigger questions like what is love anyway, and how can I bring more love into my life?

Do you have to be physically with someone to heal a past relationship? You can't control what another person feels or do or decide – but you can choose how you how you hold them in your heart.

A multi-faceted approach

Your efforts will be seen and felt in every area of your life. Take a first step. Go as far as you can see. Then you'll be able to see further.

“Ideas are the beginning points of all fortunes.”
– Napoleon Hill

Many years ago, I made the decision to change the concept of soulmates in my heart as I knew it. I now embrace all of my present and past relationships, with as much Love as I can muster. It wasn't always easy. Yet at each juncture I knew that this perspective is the only one that would open me to Love.

That's what My novel Moondance is about. And The Soulmate Site. And Moondancing. My creative life, which is an integral part of who I am. By writing, I transform myself. I must write, for me. And perhaps I expand the concept of soulmates and touch some others along the way.

Are you willing to entertain the notion, that by doing whatever you can to move every relationship you have had up The Soulmate Continuum, that you will also bring more Love into your life, in every form?

And that each Loving decision you make, brings you one step closer to your soulmate who will be ready, able and chooses to join you in this lifetime?

Are you willing to do this, and let go of the timeframe, joyfully enjoying your life until then? That, and never, ever give up? Good.

As for how you do this, there's no one right way. Everyone's different and I encourage a multi-faceted approach. Expand the concept of soulmates by researching the topic. Read Moondancing, do personal development workshops, homeopathy, energy work, karmic astrology, numerology, past life regression. What resonates for you?

As we enter 2012, seek out those eclectic, multi-faceted things that assist you in living joyfully “as if” ... and which fan your burning desires. My mission is to share ways to help you do that, for your consideration.

Trust. Believe. Get ready to receive. I'm honoured to be part of your journey.

Did this Moondancing issue help expand the concept of soulmates in your heart? Excellent.

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