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Curious about spiritual soul mates? You're in the right place!
Are you ready? is a question that a sensuous green-eyed spectre asks of a young woman, Althea Brecht, as she's heartbroken and her life is falling apart around her. Her answer takes her on a journey that changes the way she lives and loves — forever!
I'm referring to my novel, Moondance, which was written when I was emerging from heartbreak myself. Writing Moondance changed my life too. ☺
Conventional love which may be what our parents had, or a relationship which has a financial, familial or social foundation may work just dandy for some. For others, though, it's just not enough. At some point, bad boys (or blocked boys — or girls hey I've seen it) just doesn't cut it for us any more.
This need for something new often shows up as restlessness or disillusion, without a clear source.
That's why the journey toward spiritual soul mates often begins with chaos and heartbreak. In essence, when what we thought we wanted, or whatever everyone else wanted for us, didn't feed our souls.
Often, at the point where we're at our lowest, feeling the most broken and vulnerable, wondering if we'll ever get out, we begin to wonder: is there something else? A different way of living, or loving? With our questions, grow desire. And it's your sincere desire that will help you in attracting your soul mate.
Then, whether in a dream, an intuition, through a friend or reading a web site page (yup!) we get the answer, which may be in the form of a question. We may be asked: Are you ready for what spiritual soul mates entail?
If we say yes from the heart and from the bottom of our toes, we'll find that our lives will open up, presenting us with opportunities. Doorways we can peek in or step through. Oceans in which we can wade, or dive deep. Every individual's journey is unique.
Oh my, I could write chapters on this! In Moondance I did. ☺ To satisfy your question right here, right now, here are some tips to help you attract true, spiritual soul mates.
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Saying yes to spiritual soul mates may first mean letting go of your dusty beliefs about relationships. It may also mean physically letting go of toxic people in your life.
Here are some tips to get you going!
Instead of commitment being a black and white idea that's tied to what we or another does (or does not do!) for the rest of our breathing days — a failing proposition — re-define your commitment to simply having a juicy flow of loving energy in your life at all times.
This means when you're on your own, and between including between you and spiritual soul mates. Then, let go of ‘either or’ thinking.
Have you ever heard the saying about the word ‘assume’? That it makes an “ass” out of U and of “me”? Well, maybe it isn't the perfect example, but expectation is similar. Expectation has a hard, prickly edge to it. Hangs out just down the road from ‘ultimatum’.
Definitely not the juicy loving feeling we just described. Instead of expecting, why not express a strong preference, instead? Über-empowered, without the razor's edge of fear.
Martyrdom is not juicy, not at all. Unconditional love does not mean harming yourself to stay in a situation that's bad for you when there's no willingness to fix things. It's a very un-loving thing for you, for your partner, and for anyone else who's unfortunate enough to be witnessing your pain on a daily basis.
Repeat after me: Spiritual soul mates add to your life, they do not not deplete it.
Here's an article on relationships by Conversations with God author Neale Donald Walsch (not dogmatic, don't worry). He shares why ‘Selfishness’ is actually a good thing.
Once we've let go of the beliefs that have kept us stuck, we can then invite in the new to take their place. Here are a few to chew on — don't stop here!
Not new, but so true. If we don't believe we're complete and loveable on our own, we'll attract another who also feels incomplete and unlovable. It never works, because both partners will attempt to try to get the other's love to ‘fill them up’ — and what a sticky mess that becomes! So make sure to spend some time pouring all of that love that you reserve for others, into yourself first.
Part of loving yourself, is committing to become the most whole person you can be, with or without a soul mate or life partner. One way to do this, is to become curious about why you're here on this earth. Who are you? Who were you in past lifetimes? Why are you here this time around?
There are many ways to find out about your purpose. I find karmic astrology particularly helpful as it contains information about our spiritual soul mates, our soul mate relationship and even how we might meet them. I'm a karmic astrologer, by the way.
Are you struggling in a relationship, but with a willingness to make it work? What if you could transform you and your current partner into spiritual soul mates? I sincerely believe this is possible.
Here are some things the two of you can commit to today.
Long term partners and relationship advice experts Gay and Katie Hendricks say that this is one of the first things that they teach their clients to do and it can really work wonders.
Imagine bringing frequent and heartfelt appreciations into your relationships. How would that feel for both of you? We tend to criticize quickly. Instead — be quick to appreciate!
Imagine that the universe is a friend who wants to help you manifest a soul mate. If you don't articulate clearly and align your innermost self with what you say you desire, then how can the universe do your bidding?
Write it down! Your physical, emotional, psychological, material preferences for your spiritual soul mates. There's more about this in this popular free report I wrote.
What does your desired relationship look like? Are you socialites? Or do you entertain at home? Do you travel the world? Are you dedicated to raising children and growing a garden? Or do you prefer animals to children? What do your holidays look like? Your sex life? Write it all down.
Once you've written down the characteristics of preferred spiritual soul mates, don't forget to ask. Read your desires aloud confidently. Demand it! You may even wish to have a friend witness, or to burn your list as a symbol of giving it over to the universal forces.
One other thing: ask once. Then live as if you've already received your request for a compatible soul mate.
What is a soul mate – Learn more about what soulmates really are — and are not