Soulmate indicators hold possibility: it's up to you to transform them into reality!Are soulmate indicators like neon
signs? Fireworks? An orchestra? Heaven forbid - a bull
horn?! Nope I don't think so. What is the soulmate continuum?Imagine each relationship we have on a sliding scale, where karmic conflict is at one end, and harmonious soulmate love at the other.It's extremely rare to immediately be at the 'harmonious' end of the scale. Most of us fall in love with folks where we're somewhere in between. Our task in life? To move every relationship we have up that sliding scale to the best of our ability. Which is nourishing fwor our hearts - and our karma. If you and your sweetie are both willing and make a loving, conscious, consistent effort over time, the two of you will move closer and closer to soulmate status. THAT is definitely indicated. Ten soulmate indicatorsHere are my true blue soulmate indicators that you cannot discern on a first date. Created delicately to make you smile.Together, you're unspeakably boringYou're the boring couple, that agree on most things and when you don't, you work it out no problemo. There's a distinct lack of drama to your union, though this doesn't mean there isn't passion. While other fight fires and chaos, you're at home reading each others' minds. You might also be the type of stable couple others look to for advice and support in love... because to others, you seem to have it all together. You know it's not true, though. You're not perfect and together, have had to work at it like anyone else. But down deep, you humbly know how lucky you are.You have this wild serendipity-thing going onFascinating or funny coincidences brought you together, and continue to guide you. Maybe before you met, you dreamt about each other or perhaps you inexplicably chose the same type of china pattern. Perhaps your closets are eerily similar, as if you went shopping together! How you met makes a great story for friends. For example, a good friend of mine met her now husband when she was stood up on a date, and decided to go out alone. While these coincidences feature prominently, you're not into magical thinking. Each of you took action and had a choice. The doors of opportunity appeared...and you both walked through.You're married (to each other, that is)Clairvoyant Edgar Cayce says that if you're married, then you're soulmates. However, this doesn't mean you don't have something to learn together. If your marriage is in a challenging phase, then this is what I call a karmic relationship. Your task is to do whatever you can to move further up that soulmate continuum. If you're both willing, it is possible to transform your karma in this lifetime. This may mean counseling or past life regression, depending on what resonates for you. Or it might even mean together making the loving decision to divorce. Coping with divorceIt's easy (it's too weird!)It hasn't always been easy. You had to work at love a bit. You've had your heart broken - maybe more than once. When you met him, you kept waiting for the other shoe to drop. For him to move out of the country, reveal that he was still in love with his ex, or whatever pattern that wrenched your heart in the past. But time passes. You're flabbergasted. The romantic reversal doesn't happen. He's solid. He stays, even when the going gets tough. So do you. Not only that... but it feels lighter, freer and easier and more natural than anything you've ever known. Years later? Even better.You're secure (and it's not the money-honey)This isn't about dollars and cents security (which is an illusion). It's one of the soulmate indicators that goes deeper. You know he'll call again. It's a given he'll do what he says he will. You're at ease with his eccentricities. In times of challenge, the biggest part of you knows you'll work it out, so you can express yourself in ways you couldn't before. "He's never disappointed me." This from a friend who searched for her soulmate consciously, met him serendipitiously, together passed a few tests successfully and is still with him fifteen years and two kids later. Ask yourself: do you feel secure? Or on edge?Your bodies groove and humWell, not literally. But your body is one of the more important soulmate indicators. There's a lack of extreme in your interaction which helps you feel comfy in your skin. Your relationship feels like a 'pulling up' inside and while there may be butterflies in your tummy it's more about warmth and expansiveness, rather than the trill of worry, doubt, or distrust. Your body is devoid of dread, heaviness and has only a passing understanding of the sharp fingers of guilt, shame or the sting of criticism. Your entire energy body is calmed in his presence, and when you make love, it feels like coming home. Oh the pun - couldn't resist. :-)You could go on
separate vacations
A
friend's wife said to me once: "You
know, if you and D want to go away for the weekend sometime, I'd be
fine with that." Now
she didn't mean for romance, and I didn't take it this way. D and I are
friends, and I am also friends with his wife. Yet this made an
impression on me because I knew she meant it. This couple truly trusts one another.
Now I'm not saying traveling separately is for everyone. Think of the
trip as a metaphor. Trust
and freedom
is one of the things that makes these partners tick. Even though D and
I never did go away for the weekend... trust remains one of the most
formidable soulmate indicators for me. |