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Want help finding your soulmate? Honour the beauty of magnetic space

Recently I chatted with a close friend who sought help finding her soulmate. I shared old pictures. Pictures I hadn't looked at in years!

It was a time in my mid 20's where we were fancy free and did everything as a group. More often than in recent years, I was coupled and kinda decadent. I hosted elaborate dinner parties, cooked until 1:00 a.m., woke up and made love. I double dated even.

Holiday blues

Now I don't want the relationship (or the men) I had in my 20's (EGAD to that). Yet major holidays turn my attention to time and symbolize a milestone, a marker. One year older and still (temporarily) solo.

Who'd a thunk I'd need help finding my soulmate? Not me in my 20's, that's for sure.

“Waiting is painful. Forgetting is painful. But not knowing which to do is the worse kind of suffering.”
– Paulo Coelho

During holiday times especially, I'd be fibbing if I didn't admit that I still feel a slight sinking in my heart. Before you write me off, I DO stop this side of a pity party. ☺ For on the other hand, I'm unabashedly grateful to be dodging in-law logistics and a ton of work hosting.

Loving alone time — but not too much

Comfy in the exquisite simplicity of my life, I think about the law of attraction and am aware of the necessity to stay grateful for where I am, while open and receptive to the possibilities a partner will bring. Even if it does include in-laws (whom I envision as absolutely delightful, wise and supremely helpful people).☺

Said another way, how can I make sure I enjoy what I have today, without enjoying it so much that I unconsciously sabotage a potential relationship, which the law of attraction requires an open space to come in? How do I sincerely maintain a desire for a soulmate, without tipping over into sadness? How do I dissolve ambivalence when it comes up?

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
– Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi

Here are some of my own reflections which I hope provide you with help finding your soulmate.

On The Wait, I reflect that in love (and in other areas of life), whenever I've pushed something too soon, jumped in just because it's there, or otherwise moved too far outside my True Self to find love, that I found the experience lacking — even painful.

Instead of receiving something beautiful that enhanced my life, I found myself drained and strained, losing energy and judging myself odd in the process. Does this provide you with help finding your soulmate?

The opportunity of patience

On the other hand, when I have patiently remained receptive and responsive to what comes in, there's an ease of flow and I tend to be abundantly rewarded. I need to act, to respond, certainly, but in my heart, it feels different.

This state of alert, conscious receptivity aligns with my heart... and with my karmic astrology chart too.

So while the earthly time it takes to manifest my heart's desire can feel excruciating, it is also perfect for me. The parts of myself, the threads of my own soul I've lost to others during lifetimes of entanglement, encircle and find a permanent place inside me. A place which this time 'round, will receive love from where I stand — not the other way around.

Replace waiting with ‘creating’

When you feel as if you need help finding your soulmate, or the shadow pull of waiting, first replace the word waiting with ‘creating’.

Then recall the exquisite beauty and potential of time. Remember that the law of attraction allows for the synchronization of forces we cannot see. Remember that while our intentions may be like a magnet, they seek to ignite the heaviness of earth.

Ask: How can you use this precious time to re-claim pieces of your forgotten self? To dissolve resistance? To re-fuel in reflection? How can you connect deeply with the earth and open your arms wider to the stars?

Re-affirm your trust. Then, know that what you seek is already on its way. Help finding *your* soulmate. In perfect time. Irresistibly attracted to the shimmering beauty of magnetic space. Can you feel the depth of possibilities?

“The world is all gates, all opportunities, strings of tension waiting to be struck.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson

I hope that your life lavishes you with an abundance of opportunities to manifest a soulmate. I hope that when you discover help finding your soulmate, you embrace it with an open, curious heart.

And, that in the magnificent space of waiting, your heart is returned to you, full and bright: a soulmate beacon.

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