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So you want help finding your soulmate? Great! You're in the right place.
Before we dive in... are you completely, totally, crystal clear on what I mean by soulmate? If not, you may want to explore more information on soulmates first. To do this, consider reading what is a soulmate.
Now, think about this. You are finding your soulmate, in a different way than your family, your friends and the way I'm finding mine. So stop comparing yourself to others starting now! It's an exercise in heartache and futility. Nuff said.
On we go! In this section, I cover answers to the most common questions about finding your soulmate. Plus, I'll tell you the single most powerful thing you can do if you want to fast-track your unique soulmate search.
Do the well-meaning people in your life have a million opinions on what you should be doing as you're in the process of finding your soulmate?
Often these well-meaning opinions of others are actually laced with sticky stuff you don't want as you're seeking a soulmate. Things like judgement and even supriority. These things weaken you ( your body knows)...
...do you cringe and feel sick inside every time you hear:
‘You just have to get out there’
‘It's a numbers game’
‘You're not ready yet’
‘It's like looking for a job, you just keep trying’
‘don't be so picky’
My personal favourite:
‘You won't meet anyone if you stay in your living room’
Funny thing... I actually know someone who met their soulmate in their living room: an old friend came over unexpectedly... with the (now) soulmate in tow! Isn't that a hoot?
Now THAT's what I call good love karma! What is karma?
Though I wouldn't count on that happening, it just goes to show that everyone is different. Human beings will meet soulmates in all kinds of mundane, surprising and serendipitous ways.
And... the way you'll meet your soulmate is unique too. As unique as you are!
Have you read Dr. Brian Weiss' book Only Love is Real: A Story of Soulmate Reunited? Dr. Weiss is an esteemed psychiatrist, who has done thousands or past life regressions. This book has a fascinating perspective on finding your soulmate.
In Only Love is Real, Dr. Weiss tells the story of recognizing eerie similarities between the past lives of two of his patients ‘Elizabeth’ and ‘Pedro’ (each struggling with loneliness). He suspected that they might be soulmates, even before they knew it.
After carefully weighing whether or not he should interfere, he discreetly arranged back-to-back appointments so they'd meet in his lobby. Initially, there was no spark.
A few weeks later, Elizabeth and Pedro ended up on the same plane when her direct flight was re-routed. Pedro took her hand during air turbulence, sealing their connection. Today, these two lovely people, who struggled for years to find the right relationship, are married, with a family. Soulmates, reunited.
According to Dr. Weiss' book (a beautiful read by the way, it brought me to tears), you can be sure that if your soul really wants you to find your soulmate, you will.
Of course, you (and they) choose what to do when the meeting happens. There's no fate here. We are always, always at choice.
While you're waiting for your soulmate, though, sometimes it can feel like it's taking forever! You don't know how, you don't know when. You may even feel helpless. I know I did.
What I'm here to share is that there's actually lots of ways you can get busy at attracting your soulmate! In ways that don't cost thousands of dollars, which are unique to your soul, and which energetically clear the way for a soulmate to find you.
This isn't magical thinking. It is conscious, focused attention. Nurturing energy work. Raising our vibrations (for like attracts like). Because everything and everyone... when you break it all down, is energy. And... the more we can raise our vibrations, the better, for our emotions, our health... and our love lives.
Dating sites, well-meaning friends and more throw you together with eligible singles. These include online dating sites, premium matchmakers, your own personal networks.
I've even heard of a book that compares finding love to an ‘executive search’ process! Then there's coffee dating, speed dating, you name it. All under the broad umbrella of finding your soulmate.
I'm not knocking any of these things, I've done just about all of them myself! Keep in mind, though, that big numbers and ‘getting out there’ are just one piece of the puzzle.
How do I know this? I look to life.
Remember Jen Schefft from The Bachelor and The Bachelorette a few years back? She had dozens of gorgeous men to choose from and a television show. She had not only one, but two chances to find ‘the one’ and she didn't! So her publicist helped her make ‘lemonade’ out of lemons, by writing a book on ‘not settling”.
Jen was unlucky in reality TV love. She finally found love on her own. In 2005, she was set up with Joe Waterman by a blind date she didn't click with. They were married in 2009.
I can't comment on Jen Schefft personally of course, but my point is that for some, finding your soulmate is more than just a numbers game. There's much, much more going on beneath the surface.
Think of the word soulmate. Notice that it's not ‘sole mate’. Yes you're here walking the earth together, but the reason you're together is because of your soul(s).
“We are attracted to another person at a soul level not because that person is our unique complement, but because by being with that individual, we are somehow provided with an impetus to become whole ourselves.”
– Edgar Cayce, American Clairvoyant
from Edgar Cayce on Soul Mates
by Kevin J. Todeschi
In my view, the most important question to ask yourself during a conscious search for your soulmate is: What does your soul want? Tricky thing... often what our soul wants is different than what our personalities want.
For example, I'm a heavy-Capricorn (Sun, Mercury, Mars and South Node). So, yes, I'm very business focused, big on planning and working hard. This is a good thing, but it isn't what I'm here to learn. I'm here to learn something that's not easy for me: to trust and to be receptive.
How do I know this is true for me? When I reflect on my life, I realized that, without exception, the positive turning points in my life, whether a person or an experience, weren't planned. They all came easily toward me. They ‘flowed’.
Now not everyone's here to learn how to ‘flow’. You may be here to learn how to plan! But can you imagine how this has impacted my search for love? Can you imagine how knowing what your one-of-a-kind soul wants you to learn would influence your dating style and your ability to attract a soulmate?
In this mysterious journey called ‘finding your soulmate’, I suggest you do one critical thing: find out everything you can about what your soul wants of you.
Why? Because that's where your soulmate lives.
Soul purpose. Life purpose. Soul mission. When it comes to soulmates, these aren't just new agey buzzwords. This is the key to finding your soulmate. As Edgar Cayce (and others) say, soulmates are here to be our ‘helpmates’ for soul growth. So to find a ‘soul mate’, we need to align ourselves with our soul's direction.
“When will I meet him?”
“We meet our soulmates when we’re on our soul path.”
– from Moondance by Karen M. Black
Now that you know... Why not jump-start the process? Why not give yourself a BIG leg up finding your soulmate? Why not... do everything you can to discover your soul's purpose!
How to do this? I've found numerology helpful. Also developing my own intuition. Karmic astrology, also known as esoteric astrology or spiritual astrology is also a powerful way to learn about your soul, an approach I've used frequently.
Here are some things you can do today:
- Read my step by step instructions on how to reveal your soul mission using karmic astrology
- Even better, read Moondance, which is a soulmate story, covers the meaning of karma and gets into all of this stuff I'm writing about and more — at an addictive pace!
My own soul's purpose has to do with exploring the mystical and emotional side of life, including the questions around how to meet my soulmate. Also healing my past lives. So writing this site, in fact, is part of my path. As was writing my novel, and my work as a karmic astrologer.
Speaking of the karmic astrology, I'm discovering new, exciting ways you can use astrological charts if you're serious about finding your soulmate. Like knowing your soul-aligned dating style, and creating an energetic personality profile of your soulmate, and more.
I'll be introducing more over time, and there's more below. I hope you'll stick around and explore.
How does this feel to you? Does it makes sense?
Whatever tools you decide to use to discover the mysteries of your soul and your unique path to greatest soul growth, I KNOW... you are well on your way to finding your soulmate.
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