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Find soulmates by taking action designed to attract

Find soulmates or find the ‘one’ by following these 10 quickstart ideas.

I wish I could tell you that finding your beloved was as easy as pressing a button that says: find soulmate. Unfortunately it's not. Instead, it's up to each of us to find our own unique formula.

You know that taking action is an important part of the law of attraction. Not only that, but many folks (yes, me too!) feel they must be ‘doing something’ to feel productive. So go ahead — do something!

Here are some ideas to get you going.

Before you start

  1. Write down the characteristics of the person you seek
  2. Write down the description of the relationship you want
  3. Thank the universe for sending you what you desire
  4. Tell at least one friend that you're attracting your soulmate
  5. Cooperate with the universe by saying YES to invitations and by being spontaneous and flexible
  6. As new information comes in, tweak your preferences

10 ideas: How to find soulmates

Here are the steps that I recommend is you're sincerely interested in finding your soulmate.

Commit to your soul mission

Seriously, if you haven't done this, spend a moment now to read astrological soulmate. Why? Because we're more likely to consciously create a soulmate when we're on our soul path. So why not work with your soul, instead of fighting it?

Knowing your soul mission (or North Node) will also give you information about your dating style and most optimal way for you to find soulmates.

For example:

Aries soul mission is about getting out there, taking initiative and making things happen. You will want to know how to ask for what you want.

Pisces is more about trusting and learning how to attract. You might want to take up meditation.

See how it works? I'd also recommend checking out my page showing you how you can discover your own soul mission using karmic astrology.

Get support

Hire a dating coach for compassionate support and to keep you on track. Do a web search in your area, or check out the web site Your Tango which has a directory of coaches and counselors.

Join two dating sites

Online dating increases the possible ways your soulmate can connect with you. My recommendation is: Spiritual Singles.

Thinking of joining eHarmony? Before you do, read my eHarmony review. Then, go in with an open heart!

NOW forget about the dating sites. Tend to online responses. Respond thoughtfully. Meet when intrigued. But keep your priority focused on you.

Does online dating make you feel queasy? Then skip it, but do ask yourself why so your fear isn't leading the parade.

Don't get out much? Try speed dating

Wait! Look at it this way. It's an excuse to dress up and get out. It's also a fun, low risk way to get comfortable asking and answering questions and tuning in to your intuition, and his or her body language.

Approach it as a low risk training ground, and you'll have fun and feel at ease when you do meet the one. Plus increase the opportunities that come your way as well.

Always running? STOP online or speed dating

If you've been ‘doing everything’ to meet someone ‘forever’ and been met with a wall of exhausted frustration, perhaps it's time to stop the earnest quest to find soulmates and focus on you. Put more emphasis on those things you love to do... just because you love to do them. Get clear about what you want. Go where your heart sings. Hold your soulmate in your mind's eye. Gently, easily.

Re-discover an activity you love

Did you used to play tennis but gave it up? Did you used to do yoga then stopped? Give dinner parties? Drive motorcycles? These would be activities that you used to love and have missed. Follow your intuition on this one. Reconnect with the feeling.

Do something new you've always wanted to do

Have you always wanted to learn to scuba dive? Climb Mt. Everest? Go on an Italian cooking course in Tuscany? Take tai chi? Play the guitar? What's embedded in your mind and won't let you go? Don't wait. This is exactly where you'll potentially find soulmates.

Want some more ideas? Research the sign of your soul mission. Taurus makes a great photographer or gardener. Capricorn is a natural mountain climber. Aquarius loves astrology and holistic healing. Libra, interior design. Cancer, cooking.

Love animals?

Have you always wanted to own a dog? Ride horses? Protect the whales? Dogs are a great way to emotionally connect, and get outside. A friend has a sheepdog and it's amazing who she meets in the doggie park. She attracts busines opportunities, and yes — she also attracts men. Her North Node is in the 6th house of small animals.

If you have a 6th house or Virgo North Node, small pets like dogs and cats are emphasized. Saggitarius represents horses and the outdoors. Pisces and the 12th house, large wild animals, especially African. Gemini, believe it or not represents birds. Scorpio, cats.

What's your cause?

What's your cause? Causes are especially Aquarian, but can apply to all signs on the quest to find soulmates. What makes your heart pound and your blood boil? Is it the environment? Save the dolphins? Local politics? National politics? Women's rights? This is anything that you feel strongly about and are drawn to. What if this is how you'll meet him? Do it for you first. Then, stay open.

What if s/he's on your healing path?

How's your health? Physically? Emotionally? Be honest. If your energy's lagging, dating may not be your priority right now.

What if embarking on a healing journey may be exactly what you need to do to bring a partner in? This may be the case, especially if you have a Virgo/6th house, Scorpio/8th house or Pisces/12th house emphasis in your chart. My own North Node is in the 12th. ☺

Get gorgeous

Of course, if you're feeling good, ramp it up. Hire a personal trainer. Get your colours done. Have the resources? Hire a stylist to help you choose colours and styles that flatter you.

Something I can't recommend enough: get a professional makeup lesson. If you're in Toronto, I recommend Suzanne at Prettiface. She has a beautiful, natural approach. I don't wear makeup every day, but feel confident because I know I have the right products on hand to flatter me.

Discover your own unique ways to find soulmates.

Take me to:

Finding your soulmate – Serious about finding your soulmate? Why dating sites aren't enough...

Soulmate magic – Originates from your heart, connecting you with the soul who is your perfect match.

My gift to you – Get my free report The 10 big mistakes spirit-oriented women make while seeking a soulmate (and how to avoid them)

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