Coping with divorce: Adopting the idea of reincarnation may offer a new, healing perspective
Coping
with divorce is one of the hardest things you may ever have to face. Forget the legal complexities. On
an emotional and spiritual level, how do you know if you're doing the
right thing?
"I know God will not give me
anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much."
- Mother Theresa
The reason I'm writing about
divorce on
The Soulmate Site is because coping with divorce is an experience many
people share - including folks who are seeking their soulmate.
Also, because healing from heartbreak
and understanding our past relationships are important things to do
before we seek our soulmates, so that we don't repeat the same
relationship patterns again.
Divorce and your healing
heart
Divorce
advice is the domain of relationship and legal experts. Churches and
family
also weigh in on the topic. Making the choice to divorce is personal,
gut-wrenching and complex.
"When you fall in a river,
you're no longer a fisherman; you're a swimmer." - Gene Hill
Part of coping with
divorce is filtering the hailstorm of messages you receive
from others, so that you can hear
the whispers of your own heart.
Is a
friend divorcing? Consider sharing
this with them if you think it would ease their hearts.
Is divorce 'bad karma'?
What
I'm interested in sharing here, and what few talk about elsewhere, are
the spiritual and karmic
aspects of divorce, assuming that reincarnation is true,
and that we play our love stories out over lifetimes. What
is karma?
"Never give up, for that is
just the place and time that the tide will turn." - Harriet Beecher
Stowe
Spiritually
inclined people coping with divorce may find that these ideas offer
comfort and insight. Along with the counselors and legal experts who
may also assist you, I
hope that you find the following good food for thought.
I also hope that your
heart sparks with the knowing that you
are empowered during this challenging time, and that in
the wake of fresh new beginnings, you may indeed, consciously create a
soulmate.
Psychic Edgar Cayce
These ideas are not my flights of
fancy. They were carefully excerpted from the book Many Mansions - The Edgar Cayce
Story on Reincarnation by Gina Cerminara for your
consideration. Who
is Edgar Cayce?
This information from
the most documented
American clairvoyant offers
a unique view on divorce. If this resonates for you in any way, I
encourage you to read more about the man and his work which is impossible to summarize
on one web page.
Warning! The
following information isn't
for those who need easy answers. Yet, for those
spirit-focused seekers who are coping with divorce, there is much here
to consider.
Marriage and divorce:
cosmic implications
According
to the Cayce readings, marriage
is the natural human state
(not to say that important spiritual growth cannot take place without
it). Also, the readings confirm that our marriage partners come to us
from the ancient bonds of attraction
"No marriage is a start on a
clean slate. It's an episode of a story begun long before."
The most important element in a
good marriage? Unity of
purpose. In fact, the readings
have strong words for relationships that keep us from doing what we're
here to do.
"When
a relationship exists that prevents the purposes for which the entity
entered...and there is no altering of it, then...it is better that
there be a disassociation."
Coping with divorce?
Take heart that legal,
societal and
religious
laws appear, according to the readings, to matter little:
"If
society wishes to make marriage indissoluble, well and good. If not,
again well and good. Cosmic law will not be thrwarted by either system.
If man fails to meet an obligation in one existence, he will be called
to task in another."
The readings often
conveyed good reasons for divorce. On the other hand, treating marriage lightly wasn't
advised.
"Knowing
that by staying within marriage, there is much opportunity for growth.
On the other hand, no institution should enslave people into unhealthy,
miasmic, contorted relationships, and that selfless love should not be
case before the swine of unregenerate, selfishness... divorce is as
sound and sane and decent a procedure as the dissolution of any other
legal contract."
When is divorce advised?
If
you're facing divorce, here's some information that may make coping
with divorce easier for you.
The Cayce readings frequently
counseled against divorce. Simply because if a lesson is
to be learned through difficulty, sooner or later, one must find the
strength to meet it. On
the other hand,
many
approved of divorce.
Cases where divorce
was advised:
- Those in which there were no
children, or if there were, where the children would benefit from the
divorce
- Those in which the karmic
lesson of the marriage had been learned, or
- Those in which one of the
partners of the marriage had so badly met the situation as to be
dragging the other down.
Want more?
Many
Mansions has rich information about marriage,
divorce, infidelity, children, health and much, much more. If
you're coping with divorce today, I also really like: Woman's
Divorce:
Helping women survive divorce and rebuild their lives and
the Imago
approach to relationships.
Bottom line of all this?
The (karmic) law of equilibrium
is always working. It appears, like many things in life,
that the question of divorce is a matter of balance.
What to do? Read,
gather, grow. Search deep in your heart. Is divorce right
for you? How can you best cope? Only you know the answer to that
question.
Coping with divorce
might be one of the hardest things you ever have to do. Whatever types
of support you choose, know that there
is life after divorce,
and that if you continue on a path to growth, you will heal your heart,
emerge even stronger and (if you choose!) find and fall for your
soulmate.
I hope you've found
new ideas on coping with divorce!
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with divorce to:
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psychic
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